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If you ask a group of adults the question “Who is looking forward to Christmas”? A number of hands would go up. If you then ask “Who is looking forward to Christmas being…over?” A second set of hands goes up.

Ask a group of year one school children the same questions all hands would go up the first time. The reason that some people look forward to Christmas being over is of course stress.

How does it get to this? At what point does Christmas cease to be fun and become a chore?

It is a slightly sad reflection on society that so many people see Christmas as a stressful time. Yet as I have said before “stress is not about events themselves but what we make of them.”

There are a number of ways of looking at Christmas. At one level it is a day of the year like any other. At another it is a day of celebration of the birth of Jesus Christ. At a third level it is a secular celebration with gifts and get togethers. Finally there is the “festive season” which starts in mid November involving a series of events at which we eat, drink and make merry.

The biggest stress issues around Christmas are, weight gain from overindulging, bank balance loss from overspending and anxiety from interacting with those who you would prefer not too.

So this year rather than Survive Christmas why not enjoy Christmas.

Here are 12 tips to take the stress out and put the fun back into Christmas.

1      Each day spend 30 seconds to take 3 slow deep breaths in, do this at least 4 times a day. This will reduce stress.

2      Drink water. Before you go to a function have a glass or two of water. Keep yourself hydrated. If at a party alternate water with alcoholic drinks.

3      Finger food is notoriously high in calories. Eat a carrot or other piece of vegetable before you go out. This way you will not be as hungry and hence you will eat less.

4      Keep active. Do some walking or other exercise everyday (or at least 3 times a week).

5      Don’t be the last to leave. You need your sleep.

6      Realize you have choices about whom you see and what you buy. Your stress levels will be a function of your choices not the “world out there.” Be honest with yourself and others about what you can and can’t reasonably do.

7      Buy your Christmas presents with cash. That way you know you can afford them and you won’t stress about the credit card bill in January. Only buy gifts for people you really want to give one to.

8      Christmas is a time for goodwill to all, but if you really don’t like spending time with certain people (even if they are your family) then it may still be better not to. Be polite but firm in declining invitations. Make sure you spend time with those you really care about. If there is “no way out” then say to yourself “this too will pass” as often as needed.  It will pass and by adopting this approach you will not stress.

9      Christmas day lunch is a meal. If you are having people around you do not need more food than if they were coming any other day. If it’s a big gathering have everyone contribute a plate. You don’t have to eat till you feel like you will “explode”.

10  For some the preferred option is to “cancel” Christmas and just go to ground and emerge again on December 27.  Getting away from it all is a reasonable approach.

11  Have fun. Children enjoy Christmas. There is no reason adults can’t  do the same. Allow yourself to be a child again. Pop crackers, enjoy unwrapping presents and playing with the wrapping paper.

12  Consider having some “purpose” around Christmas. Maybe do some volunteer work? Perhaps reflect on what you can do to be a better person or how you can contribute to your community.

For virtually everyone there was a time when Christmas meant fun. Somewhere along the line this has been lost for some of us. This year ask yourself what needs to happen for me to enjoy Christmas as much as when I was six years old? Then go and have fun. After all it is Christmas.