Do you wish you could avoid arguments in your relationship? Is your partner pushing your buttons and making you angry, frustrated, jealous or annoyed? Are you guilty of any of these 7 dire relationship sins?
With people spending more time at home together, it is important to avoid the stresses of being at home more from affecting your relationship. Below, you will discover the seven common ways to sabotage any relationship, and how to avoid them.
Does your pride prevent you from acknowledging your partner and their success? Are you overly consumed by your own importance/appearance and neglect your partner? Do you refuse to admit when you are in the wrong? Or do you refuse to seek help when you need it?
You need to learn to let go of the ego and embrace humility. Start to acknowledge and appreciate the little things your partner does. Be prepared to concede when you are in the wrong. Swallow your pride and ask for help occasionally.
Have your past relationship break ups left you feeling angry, bitter and vengeful? Do you over react to your partner with anger or rage?
Holding onto these past emotions will only lead to arguments and conflict in your current and future relationships. Instead, let go of your anger, bitterness and revenge around wanting to get back at others for what they did or did not do.
Do you excessively think about or physically desire someone else while you are in a relationship? Have your been cheating on your partner with your thoughts, emotions or behaviours?
If you are sending out mixed messages to your partner they will pick up your indecisiveness, which can lead to arguments. To stop the mixed messages, you need to fully commit to your partner, strengthen your attraction towards them, and eliminate the inappropriate attraction you feel for anyone else.
Do you strive to keep up appearances and overextend yourself financially? Are you too needy towards your partner? This can especially be an issue in relationships where one partner was brought up to believe “waste not want not”, while the other did not value things as much as they were growing up.
Reach some agreements around finances and priorities that accommodate both partners’ needs, and then respect these. If you are too needy or desperate for love and attention, address these otherwise you may push your partner away with your needy behaviour.
Are you or your partner not using your talents fully? Is your partner’s “laziness” annoying or frustrating you? When one partner is driven to pursue their passion and uses their talents fully and the other partner is not, it can lead to frustration for both partners.
Open and honest communication about each partner’s goals, values and priorities is important. If your and your partner’s goals and values are different, then you can respect and work with the differences to make the relationship work.
Are you envious or jealous of your partner’s success and happiness? Do you resent your partner’s lifestyle?
Often what we envy in our partner we lack in ourselves, hence we desire it. Do you believe that you are deserving/worthy of having success and what you want? Are you resentful of yourself for not doing the things you want to do? Let go of these beliefs, and learn to celebrate your own and your partner’s successes.
Does greed prevent you from sharing your time and success with your partner? Are you selfishly monopolising your partner’s time and affection without reciprocating it?
Sit down and discuss your values, priorities and beliefs with your partner. Notice the common ground and any differences. Then agree on how you will effectively work with the differences.
Address the Sins
By implementing the above tips, you will be able to avoid these 7 dire relationship sins. In turn, this will create harmony with your partner and strengthen your relationship.
Dr. Vesna Grubacevic is an author (of the Amazon best-selling book, Stop Sabotaging Your Confidence), speaker, media commentator, and the founder and Performance Transformation Expert® with multi award-winning company, Qt. She holds a PhD, a BEc and is passionate about helping professionals and individuals to improve their confidence, emotional and mental wellbeing and success. For more free resources please visit www.qttransformation.com
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